Music and singing have always been a large part of my identity.
I've been singing all my life, from singing with the radio, singing at
school plays, singing for relatives, being a cantor in the church where I grew
up, singing in choirs and bands, and just singing with friends. Music
touches my soul and singing is a way of expressing my soul. I've been
very lucky because singing has always come easily to me and people have always
enjoyed listening. Until recently, my singing voice was the one thing in
my life I could always count on.
Slowly, over the past year or more, I've developed a tremor in my
singing voice that prevents me from singing higher notes. It started out
as a rare occurrence and has slowly become more frequent. It has been
very embarrassing for me and I have tried to hide it as much as possible.
For a few years, I have been working on my voice with a teacher, and she
and I have been working on this tremor for quite a while now without a lot of
success. As I continue to sing and continue to experience this block, I
have become more and more frustrated and afraid, afraid that people would
notice and afraid that this would be a permanent change in my voice that would
eventually prevent me from singing altogether.
When one loses control over something in which they had held
complete confidence, it can feel like the world is falling apart. This
can happen with many transitions in life, whether they be times of celebration
or sorrow: the birth of a baby, a move, losing or changing a job, loss of a
loved one, etc. Moving from a place of certainly to uncertainty is a time
of great stress for many.
The church I serve has been doing a lot of talking recently about
their future and how they might adapt to the changing world surrounding them.
For many, this is a scary time. Their faith community is one of
security and stability, a place where they can go for comfort and support.
When changes happen, this secure place can become one of uncertainty and
disruption.
A change in belief systems can have the same effect. For
some, their faith, their belief systems, are a rock under their feet, sturdy,
unchanging, and unshifting. So when those beliefs are threatened, the
rock become a fortress of protection. And when a crisis in life causes
one to question those beliefs or doubt what has always been true, the
underlying rock becomes quicksand, shifting, changing, and possibly trying to
swallow up and choke that faith until it disappears. For many, their
faith is part of their identity, a part of their lives, the one thing on which
they can count and rely, so this can be time of trauma, embarrassment,
frustration, and fear.
One thing I have learned over and over again is that I can't live
in the past. This applies to the changes in my voice as well. I
can't go back to how my voice was before. I have learned a lot through my
lessons about my voice and about singing and my voice is growing and changing
because of it. I've also learned that I need to let go. Because I
am afraid of embarrassment and because I am feeling afraid that this change in
my voice is permanent, I have approached my singing with trepidation and have
been afraid to express my soul in my singing.
I have to move forward. I have to take what I have learned
and apply it with confidence. I need to reach deep into that place within
that loves to sing, and try to move past the embarrassment and fear.
"Do not be afraid," as we are told over and over again in our
scriptures, as we hear during the Christmas season when angels approached Mary and Joseph and the shepherds. Easier said than done, but we can't live in our past and
hold stubbornly to the way we've always done things, let fear keep us from
moving forward. If we can find the determination to more forward, we can
allow our experiences to change us, transform us, help us to grow as human
beings in relationship with others and with the Holy. This might mean the
ground beneath our feet feels a little shaky at times, but instead of an
unchanging rock, we'll have layers beneath us that help root us and ground us
and perhaps make us stronger in times of uncertainty and crisis.
The loss of my singing voice still scares me. It is a large
part of who I am, but it's not all of who I am. My voice is used for much
more than singing. I use it for preaching, for storytelling, for offering
kind words, for laughing, and for conversations. These are the many layers of my voice, and although my singing feels awfully shaky right now, these other layers will help keep my strong.
Being open to change, being open to new ideas, and being open to differences, keeps my faith growing and keeps it from being fixed and even a bit shaky. It's ever-changing, ever-growing, and ever-evolving with my own life journey and with those around me. May it always be so. Amen.
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